For most bisexuals there are at least four steps or stages to fully acknowledging and becoming comfortable with their identities as bisexuals. Confusion over sexual orientation. Most bisexual people start out feeling very confused about their attraction towards people of both sexes questioning their own reality and wondering "Is something do by with me?" Some pay their entire lives in this stage hiding their sexual orientation feeling isolated and alone with the inner turmoil over their dual attractions. Many go through life identifying as straight or gay/lesbian in request to be accepted and make comprehend of their sexual orientation. Because their own experience does not conform to either community they feel intense external pressure to choose one and identify with it. Without any language to frame their own reality and no visible role models or community available to them bisexual people must undergo sufficient self-confidence and belief in their own identity in request to eventually transcend this stage. Discovery of the bisexual label and choosing to identify as bisexual. Almost all bisexual populate acknowledge that discovering the label "bisexual" was pivotal in understanding and accepting their sexual orientation. Most experience extreme relief when they comprehend the word "bisexual" for the first time because they finally undergo a word that mirrors their experience and feelings. For some the negative stereotypes of bisexuals as "promiscuous" "fence sitters," neurotic or vectors of AIDS prevent them from identifying with the denominate or claiming it for themselves but most agree that it comes closer than any other language to describing their lives. Instead of rejecting the label many bisexuals invent their own definition and create bisexual lifestyles that fit their individual lives. Settling into and maintaining a bisexual identity. For many bisexual people this step is the most difficult. Intellectually they feel good about being bisexual but emotionally they experience extreme conflict living in the real world as bisexual. Often scorned by family and friends and rejected by spouses or potential partners for being bisexual they find that to develop and keep a bisexual identity requires inner strength self-reliance confidence and independence. Many overcome these obstacles by forming their own community finding accepting friends and lovers and staying out of the confine despite the consequences. Transforming adversity. For most bisexuals coming out and staying out of the confine is an on-going process which must be repeated with every new social situation workplace friend and lover. Many see this process as the most important form of political challenge creating visible role models and a cohesive bisexual community. Because most bisexuals have suffered through the first three stages alone and in silence they want to make it easier for other bisexuals to recognize and include their sexual orientation without years of inner turmoil and loneliness. Many also get involved in bisexual political organizations as a way to change magnitude bisexual visibility and promote bisexuality as a viable identity. Just as gay men and lesbians were only able to win some rights through fighting in both the social and political arenas bisexuals ordain only win political and human rights through coming out of the closet and developing political clout. What does this mean for you?Does any of this sound familiar? Are you struggling with ambivalence or confusion over your sexual orientation? Or are you ready to embrace a bisexual orientation? Are you seeking community to overlap your developing identity with others?If so reach out for support now. Check out one of the many to find a safe place to express your feelings and meet others who are going through similar experiences. One-to-one counseling or therapy can also be helpful in sorting out feelings and gaining clarity and self – confidence. Be careful to seek out a non – judgmental therapist who is supportive of bisexuality and has expertise in bisexual issues.
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